Title: Old Style Parenting Starts Debate in the US

Content: <div id='article-page'><div id='article-content' data-media-url='//news-app-staging.s3.amazonaws.com' data-base-url='//news-app-staging.herokuapp.com' data-sound-name='https://news-app-production.s3.amazonaws.com/articles/16/parenting_audio.m4a' data-capture-url='//staging.analytics.lingraphica.com/events/capture_news' data-article-title='Old Style Parenting Starts Debate in the US' data-article-id='17'><script src='//news-app-staging.herokuapp.com/javascripts/getscripts.js'></script><link rel='stylesheet' href='//news-app-staging.herokuapp.com/stylesheets/article.css' type='text/css' /><div class='article'><p><span data-start-time='0' data-end-time='6188'>Child abuse and child neglect are serious crimes.</span> <span data-start-time='6188' data-end-time='13354'>Some U.S. laws are designed to protect children from their very own parents.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='13354' data-end-time='25167'>Recently, two parents who live in the state of Maryland, near Washington, D.C., were found guilty of unsubstantiated neglect.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='25167' data-end-time='27375'>What was their crime?</span> <span data-start-time='27375' data-end-time='35167'>The parents let their two children walk home together unsupervised from a neighborhood park.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='35167' data-end-time='42417'>The children are a 10-year old boy named Rafi and his 6-year old sister Dvora.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='42417' data-end-time='46458'>The two siblings like to play at their neighborhood park.</span> <span data-start-time='46458' data-end-time='51000'>After playing, they walk home by themselves.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='51000' data-end-time='57542'>And that is a problem says Marylands child protective services agency.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='57542' data-end-time='66750'>This incident has restarted a debate in the U.S. about the amount of independence parents should give their children.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='66750' data-end-time='73667'>Some people object to courts telling parents how to raise their children.</span> <span data-start-time='73667' data-end-time='82250'>They also think children benefit from exploring the outside world without a lot of supervision.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='82250' data-end-time='90479'>Opponents say this so called free-range parentingcan put children in danger.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='90479' data-end-time='99313'>Rafi and Dvoras parents, Danielle and Alexander Meitiv, are both trained scientists.</span> <span data-start-time='99313' data-end-time='102604'>They defend "free-range parenting."</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='102604' data-end-time='110271'>Free-range is usually a term used to describe farm animals that live uncaged.</span> <span data-start-time='110271' data-end-time='115146'>With parents, it means loosening control over your children.</span> <span data-start-time='115146' data-end-time='118021'>Danielle Meitiv explains.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='118021' data-end-time='124208'>"The idea of free-range parenting is really that your children need the freedom to explore.</span> <span data-start-time='124208' data-end-time='126917'>They need to be alone, without parents.</span> <span data-start-time='126917' data-end-time='128063'>They learn to take risks.</span> <span data-start-time='128063' data-end-time='129396'>They learn to be independent.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='129396' data-end-time='136917'>But opponents say children may not be able to safely navigate the world alone.</span> <span data-start-time='136917' data-end-time='140771'>They may not be able to cross the street safely.</span> <span data-start-time='140771' data-end-time='142958'>They may get lost.</span> <span data-start-time='142958' data-end-time='149771'>They could get hurt or, a parents worst nightmare, kidnapped.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='149771' data-end-time='158479'>Supporters of free-range parenting argue that many more children die in car accidents than are kidnapped.</span> <span data-start-time='158479' data-end-time='164021'>But, they say, parents still put children in cars all the time.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='164021' data-end-time='170646'>The Meitiv parents say they slowly let their two children take walks by themselves.</span> <span data-start-time='170646' data-end-time='176146'>They first made sure Rafi and Dvora knew the area well.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='176146' data-end-time='184000'>But on December 20, 2014, the two young Meitivs went farther than usual.</span> <span data-start-time='184000' data-end-time='190146'>They walked home from a park that is a little more than a kilometer away.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='190146' data-end-time='196896'>Police officers stopped the children as they walked along a busy street.</span> <span data-start-time='196896' data-end-time='199479'>They drove the children home.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='199479' data-end-time='206354'>What happened next came as a shock, says Alexander Meitiv, their father.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='206354' data-end-time='216917'>"When they brought them home I thought they would release the kids -- it's my house, my kids -- but apparently they had some procedure to go through which required me to give them my ID.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='216917' data-end-time='222000'>Mr. Meitiv says the police would not let him go to his children.</span> <span data-start-time='222000' data-end-time='224396'>They physically blocked him.</span> <span data-start-time='224396' data-end-time='229688'>Rafi, the older child, called his mother who was out of town.</span> <span data-start-time='229688' data-end-time='237479'>He said he felt afraid, or scared, that the police were going to arrest his father.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='237479' data-end-time='243917'>"At first I was just a bit annoyed because we know that they're not allowed to do this and what we're doing is allowed.</span> <span data-start-time='243917' data-end-time='250500'>And then I started to kinda (kindof) get scared because I thought that maybe they would like my arrest my dad or something."</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='250500' data-end-time='253479'>The police did not arrest Mr. Meitiv.</span> <span data-start-time='253479' data-end-time='264396'>However, a few hours later, an investigator from Child Protective Services, or CPS, showed up at their house.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='264396' data-end-time='272021'>Mr. Meitiv says the CPS investigator came with, what she called, a safety plan.</span> <span data-start-time='272021' data-end-time='280500'>This safety plan called for Mr. Meitiv to have his children under supervision at all times.</span> <span data-start-time='280500' data-end-time='284292'>Mr. Meitiv refused to sign the paper.</span> <span data-start-time='284292' data-end-time='294458'>The CPS investigator threatened to take his children from him and call the police if he did not sign the safety plan.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='294458' data-end-time='317354'>U.S. federal law defines neglect as failure of a parent or other person with responsibility for the child to provide needed food, clothing, shelter, medical care, or supervision to the degree that the childs health, safety, and well-being are threatened with harm.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='317354' data-end-time='324833'>Many U.S. states do not have laws that say at what age a child can be left alone.</span> <span data-start-time='324833' data-end-time='327250'>Maryland does.</span> <span data-start-time='327250' data-end-time='341259'>Child Protective Services opened the Meitiv investigation based on a Maryland law that makes it illegal to leave a child younger than eight with anyone under the age of 13.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='341259' data-end-time='346917'>Danielle Meitiv says she and her husband did not violate this law.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='346917' data-end-time='355583'>"It says children may not be left unattended while confined or locked in a building, dwelling, enclosure or vehicle.</span> <span data-start-time='355583' data-end-time='357146'>They were not locked or confined anywhere.</span> <span data-start-time='357146' data-end-time='360125'>They were outdoors playing in a playground or walking home."</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='360125' data-end-time='365688'>This is not the first time the U.S. has debated free-range parenting.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='365688' data-end-time='375875'>In 2008, a journalist in New York City named Lenore Skenazy let her 9-year old son ride the subway alone.</span> <span data-start-time='375875' data-end-time='381917'>Then Ms. Skenazy wrote about it, calling it free-range parenting.</span> <span data-start-time='381917' data-end-time='383938'>The name stuck.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='383938' data-end-time='390813'>Some called Ms. Skenazy the Worlds Worst Mother for putting her child in danger.</span> <span data-start-time='390813' data-end-time='399646'>She now has a television show called Worlds Worst Mother where she helps parents who are too protective.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='399646' data-end-time='412854'>Free-range parents such as Danielle Meitiv say that letting your children be out in the world alone is how most American children played just a generation ago.</span> <span data-start-time='412854' data-end-time='418313'>This is the way children still do play in many parts of the world.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='418313' data-end-time='425438'>She remembers her own childhood when she was permitted to go almost everywhere alone.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='425438' data-end-time='434979'>"Up until this generation, it was perfectly normal for children to go to the park by themselves or down the block or run errands for their parents or walk home from school.</span> <span data-start-time='434979' data-end-time='439104'>It's only very recently that this has become unusual."</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='439104' data-end-time='445958'>For now, the Meitivs say they feel as if they are living under a cloud of uncertainty.</span> <span data-start-time='445958' data-end-time='453438'>Child Protective Services will keep the case against the couple open for at least five years.</span> <span data-start-time='453438' data-end-time='463563'>The Meitivs still do not know what will happen if their children walk or play outside by themselves in the future.</span> </p><p><span data-start-time='463563' data-end-time='465333'>Im Anna Matteo.</span> </p></div><div class='control-buttons-sticky' style='display:none;'><div class='control-buttons'><button title='Back' class='back' disabled='disabled'></button><button 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Child abuse and child neglect are serious crimes. Some U.S. laws are designed to protect children from their very own parents.

Recently, two parents who live in the state of Maryland, near Washington, D.C., were found guilty of unsubstantiated neglect.

What was their crime? The parents let their two children walk home together unsupervised from a neighborhood park.

The children are a 10-year old boy named Rafi and his 6-year old sister Dvora.

The two siblings like to play at their neighborhood park. After playing, they walk home by themselves.

And that is a problem says Marylands child protective services agency.

This incident has restarted a debate in the U.S. about the amount of independence parents should give their children.

Some people object to courts telling parents how to raise their children. They also think children benefit from exploring the outside world without a lot of supervision.

Opponents say this so called free-range parentingcan put children in danger.

Rafi and Dvoras parents, Danielle and Alexander Meitiv, are both trained scientists. They defend "free-range parenting."

Free-range is usually a term used to describe farm animals that live uncaged. With parents, it means loosening control over your children. Danielle Meitiv explains.

"The idea of free-range parenting is really that your children need the freedom to explore. They need to be alone, without parents. They learn to take risks. They learn to be independent.

But opponents say children may not be able to safely navigate the world alone. They may not be able to cross the street safely. They may get lost. They could get hurt or, a parents worst nightmare, kidnapped.

Supporters of free-range parenting argue that many more children die in car accidents than are kidnapped. But, they say, parents still put children in cars all the time.

The Meitiv parents say they slowly let their two children take walks by themselves. They first made sure Rafi and Dvora knew the area well.

But on December 20, 2014, the two young Meitivs went farther than usual. They walked home from a park that is a little more than a kilometer away.

Police officers stopped the children as they walked along a busy street. They drove the children home.

What happened next came as a shock, says Alexander Meitiv, their father.

"When they brought them home I thought they would release the kids -- it's my house, my kids -- but apparently they had some procedure to go through which required me to give them my ID.

Mr. Meitiv says the police would not let him go to his children. They physically blocked him. Rafi, the older child, called his mother who was out of town. He said he felt afraid, or scared, that the police were going to arrest his father.

"At first I was just a bit annoyed because we know that they're not allowed to do this and what we're doing is allowed. And then I started to kinda (kindof) get scared because I thought that maybe they would like my arrest my dad or something."

The police did not arrest Mr. Meitiv. However, a few hours later, an investigator from Child Protective Services, or CPS, showed up at their house.

Mr. Meitiv says the CPS investigator came with, what she called, a safety plan. This safety plan called for Mr. Meitiv to have his children under supervision at all times. Mr. Meitiv refused to sign the paper. The CPS investigator threatened to take his children from him and call the police if he did not sign the safety plan.

U.S. federal law defines neglect as failure of a parent or other person with responsibility for the child to provide needed food, clothing, shelter, medical care, or supervision to the degree that the childs health, safety, and well-being are threatened with harm.

Many U.S. states do not have laws that say at what age a child can be left alone. Maryland does. Child Protective Services opened the Meitiv investigation based on a Maryland law that makes it illegal to leave a child younger than eight with anyone under the age of 13.

Danielle Meitiv says she and her husband did not violate this law.

"It says children may not be left unattended while confined or locked in a building, dwelling, enclosure or vehicle. They were not locked or confined anywhere. They were outdoors playing in a playground or walking home."

This is not the first time the U.S. has debated free-range parenting.

In 2008, a journalist in New York City named Lenore Skenazy let her 9-year old son ride the subway alone. Then Ms. Skenazy wrote about it, calling it free-range parenting. The name stuck.

Some called Ms. Skenazy the Worlds Worst Mother for putting her child in danger. She now has a television show called Worlds Worst Mother where she helps parents who are too protective.

Free-range parents such as Danielle Meitiv say that letting your children be out in the world alone is how most American children played just a generation ago. This is the way children still do play in many parts of the world.

She remembers her own childhood when she was permitted to go almost everywhere alone.

"Up until this generation, it was perfectly normal for children to go to the park by themselves or down the block or run errands for their parents or walk home from school. It's only very recently that this has become unusual."

For now, the Meitivs say they feel as if they are living under a cloud of uncertainty. Child Protective Services will keep the case against the couple open for at least five years. The Meitivs still do not know what will happen if their children walk or play outside by themselves in the future.

Im Anna Matteo.

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