Did you ever have to say “no” to somebody? Such as a classmate who asks to go to lunch with you, or a roommate who asks if you would like to continue living together in the future? New research suggests that, at least socially, a rejection should not include an apology. In other words, saying you are sorry does not make the person being rejected feel any better. In fact, it might make the rejected person feel worse. That is surprising. Many people consider it to be good manners to say they are sorry when they turn down a request.
Title: Saying 'Sorry' Might Not Help Person You’re Rejecting
Content: <div id='article-page'><div id='article-content' data-media-url='//news-app-staging.s3.amazonaws.com' data-base-url='//news-app-staging.herokuapp.com' data-sound-name='https://news-app-production.s3.amazonaws.com/articles/2121/saying_sorry.m4a' data-capture-url='//staging.analytics.lingraphica.com/events/capture_news' data-article-title='Saying 'Sorry' Might Not Help Person Youre Rejecting' data-article-id='2639'><script src='//news-app-staging.herokuapp.com/javascripts/getscripts.js'></script><link rel='stylesheet' href='//news-app-staging.herokuapp.com/stylesheets/article.css' type='text/css' /><div class='article'><p><span data-start-time='0' data-end-time='3688'>Did you ever have to say “no” to somebody?</span> <span data-start-time='3688' data-end-time='14750'>Such as a classmate who asks to go to lunch with you, or a roommate who asks if you would like to continue living together in the future?</span> <span data-start-time='14750' data-end-time='22917'>New research suggests that, at least socially, a rejection should not include an apology.</span> <span data-start-time='22917' data-end-time='31125'>In other words, saying you are sorry does not make the person being rejected feel any better.</span> <span data-start-time='31125' data-end-time='36854'>In fact, it might make the rejected person feel worse.</span> <span data-start-time='36854' data-end-time='39146'>That is surprising.</span> <span data-start-time='39146' data-end-time='47583'>Many people consider it to be good manners to say they are sorry when they turn down a request.</span> </p></div><div class='control-buttons-sticky' style='display:none;'><div class='control-buttons'><button title='Back' class='back' disabled='disabled'></button><button title='Play' class='play' disabled='disabled'></button><button title='Pause' class='pause' style='display:none;'></button><button title='Forward' class='forward' disabled='disabled'></button><button class='finished-reading' 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data-sound-name='https://news-app-production.s3.amazonaws.com/articles/2121/better.m4a'><span>better</span></div></div></div><div class='sentence_completion_question question-container' data-question-id=9423 data-hint-location='14750' style='display:none;'><div class='question' data-sound-name='https://news-app-production.s3.amazonaws.com/articles/2121/a_rejection_should_not_include__blank_.m4a'>A rejection should not include <span class='blank'>an apology</span>.</div><div class='choices' data-correct-choice='an apology'><div class='choice' data-sound-name='https://news-app-production.s3.amazonaws.com/articles/2121/research.m4a'><span>research</span></div><div class='choice' data-sound-name='https://news-app-production.s3.amazonaws.com/articles/2121/an_apology.m4a'><span>an apology</span></div><div class='choice' data-sound-name='https://news-app-production.s3.amazonaws.com/articles/2121/an_excuse.m4a'><span>an excuse</span></div><div class='choice' 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